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5 Money Moves for When You’re Gay and 18

  August 1, 2019  |    #Make Money

Money moves for every gay teen

Homeless teens make up 40% of homeless youth in America. That means our LGBT teens need some serious financial help to be prepared for adulthood. Here are our five best money moves to make when you’re gay and 18.

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Money moves from 21 to 18-year-olds

John posted a “Dear John” letter to his 21-year-old self a while back. It was an open letter of what he’d say to himself in his 20s about money, knowing what he knows now. Hindsight is always 20/20, right? So, with our 20/20 hindsight vision, here’s my advice for money moves to make when you’re gay and 18.

Money moves with 18 and life

This made me think of my challenges in my twenties and my struggles with being gay. I was raised a Jehovah Witness (J-dub for short). Everything I heard and read about being gay was bad. This created an internal conflict because I knew as early as nine years old that I was exactly who my minister railed against. I knew what to expect when I told my parents I was gay. I knew they’d kick me out of the house and I’d likely never see them again.

My crystal ball didn’t lie.

When the day came to tell my family I was gay, not only was I scared to lose them, I was scared of how I would take care of myself physically, emotionally and financially. In a flash, I’d be alone. Being raised to believe that “the church” would take care of me from cradle to grave, I didn’t prepare to be emotionally or financially independent. I wasn’t organized financially.

Whether we jump out or are pushed out of the nest, many queer kids and young adults find themselves in similar financial situations with similar fears. This made me think of how The Debt Free Guys™ could help queer people in their teens and twenties who face similar situations.

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5 Money Moves for those 18 and Gay (or Straight)

1. Get Banked – With a recent survey showing that a whopping 50% of LGBTQ respondents saying they did not have a bank account; queer people especially queer youth are spending more money on financial transactions than those that have bank accounts. Even if its just a few dollars a month more, that is money you don’t need to be spending. What do we suggest?

Start with a simple easy to use an online bank. One that you can manage from your phone that if necessary, can be away from the eyes of non-supportive parents or family members. Chime is a great option. You can manage it from your phone, and you can have any money you are earning be directly deposited or even a portion of it deposited into Chime so no one else knows you’re using it. Check out Chime today.

2. Start earning money – The simple fact is that if you are a younger teen, earning a few bucks every week is going to allow you to start building up savings and reserve of cash for any emergency. If you had to leave home at a moment’s notice for your safety, wouldn’t it be nice to have some cash to fall back on to cover your expenses?

You can start small when it comes to earning a few bucks a week. There are some great tools that can you as a younger teen that don’t require you to get a job. For example, survey sites allow you to sign up with your phone or a computer, spend a few hours a week answering questions and earn between $5-10, which can add up to over $500 a year if you stick with it. Survey Junkie is a great one we like. They pay you via PayPal, which is cash in your bank account mentioned above or in gift cards, which can be used like cash depending on which you choose to receive. Learn more about Survey Junkie.

If you’re able, get a job so that you can earn more money. Doing this can help you spend time outside of a home that isn’t supportive. I wish I had done this when I was younger. It would have allowed me to start setting even more money aside.

3. Start investing – Back when I was a queer teen, I wish I had learned about the value of investing at an early age. It is one of the smartest money moves any teen, but especially gay teens can make. Today I now know that no one get’s rich without setting aside money and then putting that money to work through investing. That can be investing in a business or investing in stocks. Either way, had I learned that I would definitely have more money today.

Getting started early is the key, but there are so many options, where should you start? We suggest starting with something simple to use and understand. We suggest trying out Acorns.

Acorns is a simple platform that allows you to invest spare change into an account rather than having to come up with $25 or $50 a month, something many LGBTQ teens just simply don’t have. Acorns allows you to build up your investments over time with small dollar amounts. It will add up though. The other cool thing, is you don’t have to be a genius to invest. They take care of the investing for you. You answer a few simple questions and they pick a smart investment based on your answers. One that makes sense for you.

Imagine heading off to college or graduating from college and having a few thousand dollars saved up to start your new life. Acorns can help you get there. Learn more about Acorns.

4. Live below your means – One of the biggest mistakes I made as a gay teen was to not understand really how money and debt worked. When I got money, I spent it. I never saved a penny. Especially when my grandmother passed away and I got $1,000. Poof! It was gone within a few weeks. I couldn’t tell you today what I spent that on.
One of the most important things to learn as a young adult is that if you spend all the money you have and more, you won’t end up with any money. Remember, no one gets rich spending more money than they make.

Had I learned how to track my money as a young gay teen, I would have known where it was going, when it came in and how to make sure some of it was being set aside for a better future.

5. Avoid student loan debt – This may seem nearly impossible today, but too many students are completely unaware of the poor decisions that their parents and high school counselors are encouraging them to make. They say, “Just go to school. You’ll make more money and live a better life.” Sadly, today over 60% of LGBT college graduates regret their student loans and wish they hadn’t taken on so much debt.

How do you avoid it? There are a number of ways to curb costs in school, but the biggest one is to find ways for someone else to pay for your education. One of the best ways that we’ve found is the Scholarship System.

Our friend Jocelyn created this system after she when through school, spent over $100,000 on her education and never paid a dime of it on her own. She found an amazing way to get regular, smaller dollar scholarships, that were rarely being rewarded, and make them pay for her education. There simply wasn’t the competition for these like there were for the $5,000, $10,000 or $25,000 scholarships.

Jocelyn now teaches this system to students and parents and has helped her students get over $1,200,000 in scholarships in just the past few years. Sign up for one of her free webinars and learn more about the best way to avoid student loan debt and get your college tuition paid for by someone else.

Your future seems like a long way off and money feels unimportant, but you’ll save yourself a world of financial hurt, especially if you’re at risk of losing your family if you take even half my suggestions. If you accomplish these five steps in the next year, you’ll be light years ahead of me at your age, regardless of whether you’re pushed out of or jump out of the nest.

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11 responses to “5 Money Moves for When You’re Gay and 18

  1. Wow, thank you for sharing. The whole concept of being able to rely on the church and also facing that is fascinating and would also be terrifying to face.

    1. Anne, thanks for the comment. It was tough to know I was going to be completely alone. I think that was the reason it took me so long. Better finances would have helped with that decision.

  2. David and John, I love the work you’re doing here. The transparency you bring is helping us all feel more comfortable to talk about money, debt, and credit. Keep up the great work!

    I wish I read this article in my late teens. I never thought about investing for retirement when I was young. I lost money by not investing early. I also missed out on free money by not taking advantage of company matching on my 401(k) contributions.

    I also got taken advantage of with my first credit card. The health club sales guy put two years of my gym membership on my credit card (when I thought I was just getting a $20 monthly payment sent there). I should have read the contract more carefully.

    1. Thank you for the vote of confidence Mike. We appreciate your support. It does sound like you were taken advantage of, just another reason why we need to educate the youth of today about the pitfalls of credit and help them get on a stronger path financially.

  3. Thanks for sharing your story. It’s a personal finance dilemma that’s not often talked about. I can only imagine how terrifying it would be to lose my support system overnight. Like Mike, I wish I had saved more at a younger age, but my saving grace was my boss at my first job who insisted I put money into the company retirement plan.

    I like the advice about getting a card with a small limit so you can still build credit but avoid temptation.

    Keep up the great work!

    1. Thank you for the nice words Gerri. We hope that things have changed for many gay youth, but I also know there are many out there today that still need to be determined on their own. We hope that making better financial decisions can make that a bit easier. It is true that credit cards can be a temptation especially when young and our you own. Keeping a low balance minimal use card helps to avoid the temptation.

  4. When my brother came out to my Mom & Dad it became more of an emotional struggle for them than a financial issue, though I can definitely see how that might happen. I hope that people always have at least someone in their network that they can turn to, regardless of which kind of support they need. I was honestly shocked that there was any “issue” of support at all – but then again, I’m about as liberal as they come 😉

    1. It’s nice that your brother has somewhat of a support system. Things have changed quite quickly, but there are still many out there that have no support system and we hope that we can inspire them a bit to think ahead. It may not be top of mind, but I know for myself, it would have been a bit easier if I knew I could support myself and had the confidence to do so.

    1. Yes, Mindy. I grew up a J-Dub. I learned some solid principles, but I really enjoy who I am now. I think part of that has to do with living a life of abundance and not worrying that the end is neigh.

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