Affordable Gay Cities You May Be Missing Out On

Mass Migration to the Gay Cities

For decades, there’s been a migration from farms and small towns to big gay cities that has become a standard within the LGBT community.

It wasn’t long ago that many gays and lesbians felt the need to hide in bigger gay cities — ideally San Francisco, the queen of all gayborhoods — if they wanted to live in a community that would leave them be. The LGBT community gathered in pockets within the less desirable neighborhoods. The Castro in San Francisco today is not The Castro pre-Harvey Milk. Chelsea in New York City and Boystown in Chicago weren’t the exclusive enclaves they are now either. Pre-1980, these neighborhoods were often dirty, crime-ridden places that citizens forgot and governments hoped to forget.

With the sheer number of people these cities housed, it was easy for gays and lesbians to hide out and create their own sanctuary city. It was either irony or recompense that these places of refuge made many of their disenfranchised residents “house rich” due to their DIY skills, even before shirtless HGTV stars showed them how.

Times have changed and in most parts of the country gays no longer seek refuge. There’s still, however, a big draw to these cities — one that now poses a financial problem. While real estate and the cost of living has increased nationwide since the 1970s — exponentially so in these first- and second-tier metros — many formerly gay locales are now million-dollar enclaves. For gays and lesbians who don’t earn six figures, this is a problem. To supplement your income, more queer people should become gay bloggers.

Big City, Empty Pockets

While it’s desirable to live in a city with a half dozen things to do all seven nights of the week with millions of people like you, you may be surprised at how expensive it can be living in such cities. Here is the cost of living for premier gay destination cities, based on PayScale data.

  • New York – cost of living is 118% above average; housing is 341% above average
  • Los Angeles – cost of living is 32% above average; housing is 102% above average
  • San Francisco – cost of living is 63% above average; housing is 198% above average
  • Chicago – cost of living is 17% above average; housing is 38% above average
  • Seattle – cost of living is 24% above average; housing is 57% above average

What’s interesting is that only three of the five cities above are ranked in the top 10 metros with the highest concentration of LGBT per capita, according to Gallup poll data.

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Smaller Cities, Bigger Pockets

Gays and lesbians today should know that the door out of the closet doesn’t only lead to these emerald cities (and potentially stressed finances). Below are five great gay cities that rank in the top 15 for highest concentration of LGBT per capita but have a more affordable cost of living. Best of all, when budgeted correctly, a resident in one of the below cities can easily hop on a plane and visit any of the above cities.

1. Austin, Texas

Austin’s cost of living is 6% below the national average and housing is 13% below the national average. Austin has an amazing music scene and is becoming a mecca for comedy and improv theater. It’s also known for great food, yet is one of the fittest cities in Texas.

2. Salt Lake City, Utah

Salt Lake’s cost of living is 6% below the national average and its housing is 8% below the national average. Salt Lake is close to top skiing and cycling destinations and has a growing music scene with many free concerts in Pioneer Park. Salt Lake is definitely one the best gay cities if you are looking to be a part of the community as it has the hight concentration of queer individuals per capita. Yes, even higher than San Francisco.

3. Denver, Colo.

Denver is slightly above the national average in most categories. Cost of living is 6% above the national average and housing is 23% higher than the national average, which is due in part to the influx of residents during the past five years. Forbes, however, recently ranked Denver as the third easiest place in the country to find job. Denver is known for its proximity to premier skiing and mountain sports, as well as its plethora of micro-breweries.

4. Louisville, Ky.

Louisville’s cost of living is 8% below the national average and housing is 20% below the national average. The city is filled with beautiful historic homes and — put on your best hat —it’s home to the Kentucky Derby! Louisville also has a thriving art, culture and zombie scene. (Yes, zombie scene. It’s the site of one of the world’s biggest annual Zombie Walks.)

5. Jacksonville, Fla.

Jacksonville’s cost of living is 2% below the national average and housing is 15% below the national average. If you want to live near the beach, but can’t afford it, Jacksonville is the next best thing. Jacksonville has a thriving downtown scene, including great restaurant and nightlife. It also has the largest urban park system in the U.S.

The above list is not all-inclusive of the best third- and fourth-tier cities for gays and lesbians to consider living. However, we do hope they give you examples of money-conscious options for places to live, hopefully sans debt, and still be who you are. A great way to help make everywhere safe for queer people to be who they are is for more queer people to start gay blogs.




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Comment List

  • Centsai 25 / 10 / 2016 Reply

    I can definitely agree with you that New York City is EXPENSIVE!!! Going out with your friends and ordering just one drink can cost you $15 when you can get that same exact drink for $7 anywhere else!!

  • Ed S. 18 / 12 / 2016 Reply

    You missed Columbus Ohio. We have one of the largest gay populations in the Mid-west, second only to Chicago. Plus we’re the home to a multitude of large companies, so there are plenty of jobs to go around. Check us out!

    • David Auten 21 / 12 / 2016 Reply

      Thanks for the hint. We didn’t find Columbus ranking high on the per capita for LGBT populations. Maybe the lists we were looking at need some updating. We are going to be in Akron for a speaking event in 2017. We may have to drive on over.

  • Zanaan Frame 20 / 03 / 2017 Reply

    Hey David! It’s Zanaan; thanks for including Salt Lake City on your list. I moved from Denver to Salt Lake and I always tell people it’s the biggest best kept gay secret in America!! The LGBTQ community is thriving here in the city, with a Lesbian Mayor, Gay city council members, booming economy and one of the largest populations of gay families with children, it’s no wonder why Salt Lake City is being touted as the new San Francisco.

    • John Schneider 30 / 04 / 2017 Reply

      Zanaan, sorry for the delay in getting back to you. We need to get out there. I hear SLC has a great vibe and lots of friendly people. Any suggestions for our readers?

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