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Our big list of gay blogs
As a gay blog, we support other gay, lesbian, bi, trans and queer blogs. We want more LGBTQ blogs because they strengthen our voices and our community. Here’s our current list of gay blogs. While you’re here, grab your free copy of the 5 Building Blocks of a Happy Gay Life.
A blog of gay blogs
We’re often asked, “What makes LGBTQ money different from straight money?” Much of the difference is due to our unique risks and concerns, but it also includes our lifestyles – travel, parenting, politics and pop culture.
So, check out this big bad list to keep up with everything that’s going on inside and outside the community – and do it smartly with queer money.
What you’ll find here:
- Gay money blogs
- Gay travel blogs
- Gay relationship blogs
- Gay parenting blogs
- Gay lifestyle blogs
- Gay video blogs/gay vlogs
- Gay photo blogs
- How to make money as a gay blogger
Gay money blogs (vlogs YouTube Channels and more)
LGBTQ personal finance – or queer money – is different than money for everyone else. We have unique risks and concerns, such as possibly being denied housing, employment and services in up to 30 states based on our LGBTQ-status and dealing with a sexual orientation and gender identity pay gap.
One of the best ways to see that difference is to listen to the individual stories of these personal finance experts or those on the journey to a better financial life.
Our first section below is a list of LGBTQ personal finance bloggers who are sharing their money journeys and helping the queer community thrive financially. In each case, one or more of the owners or content creators have identified as LGBTQ.
We hope that you find one or more that can help you improve your financial security, career, love life or personal life.
Become a gay blogger, too
Before you read our big list, we encourage you to become a gay blogger, too. As you’ll see, gay bloggers are changing and improving the world, and we need you to join in making that change.
There’s never been easier to time to become a gay blogger, either, with this super-simple, step-by-step guide.
Gay money blogs
Let’s be real. The LGBTQ community hasn’t been talking about money – our personal finances – and it shows. LGBTQ people struggle with more debt, both credit card and student loans, earn less than our straight, white counterparts and have less money saved for retirement.
Nearly every other demographic’s talking about money as it affects their community, and we’re not.
That’s all changing, though. Our first section covers some of the trailblazers in the LGBTQ community with the foresight and courage to start talking about queer money.
Ali and Alison Walker used to call Seattle, WA home. They met in 2004, married in 2006, and retired in 2018.
After reaching FIRE (Financial Independence / Retire Early), they dropped their career-focused lives. That meant leaving Seattle behind and making travel their new lifestyle. By November of 2018, they sold their home and car, let go of 99% of our belongings and left Seattle.
Today, they’re nomads in love with each other and their new lives.
Their home is wherever they happen to be at the moment. Their only jobs are Alis travel planning and Alison’s financial planning, and they’ll slow travel around the world for as long as they enjoy it. They wake up every day excited that they have the freedom to follow their dreams with “All Options Considered!”
Hear Ali & Alison talk about geoarbitrage on Queer Money®:
Think of Bitches Get Riches as a beautiful test-tube baby. The ovum was harvested from the life experience of two optimistic, financially solvent, twenty-something feminist killjoys. The sperm was the writhing mass of bullshit shot straight out of the blighted ball sack that was the Great Recession. Though not our first choice of donor, they’re raising this baby with all the dedication and ferocity of Lisa Banes’s character in the classic Lifetime thriller Mother, May I Sleep With Danger?
Brian Thompson started Brian Thompson Financial with a simple goal: to educate and empower a new generation to align their life with their money. Now’s the time, and Brian’s here to help.
Young adulthood is a complex time, especially in this era of marriage equality, the Affordable Care Act, convoluted tax laws and widespread student debt. You’ll have a tangle of conflicting obligations but also a lot of opportunity for richness, joy and choice in the future.
Now more than ever, Generation X and Y LGBTQ couples, families and professionals need someone they can trust on their side. That’s where Brian comes in.
Click here to see and hear on Queer Money® how Brian Thompson of BT Financial successfully made his mid-life career change.
Yours truly are the first bloggers and podcasters dedicated solely to serving up delectable dishes of money tips, tricks and wisdom so the queer community can achieve financial wellness, security and independence.
With our over 25 years in financial services between us and having had paid off $51,000 in credit card debt, we use our professional and personal experiences with money (that’s helped us save nearly $1,000,000) to help you.
We paid off that credit card debt in two and a half years. Because of this and working on the other four building blocks of a happy gay life, we’ve never been happier.
Based in Los Angeles, Financial Planner David Rae advises his clients and their families on getting their fiscal houses in order, developing investment strategies to meet their goals and plan for their retirement.
As a contributor to Forbes, David’s built a strong reputation as a financial planning specialist serving the needs of individuals, couples and families in and around the LGBTQ community. While his practice, home and husband are based in LA, David has clients across the country.
Click to hear David Rae talk on Queer Money® all about how to live a fabulously frugal life.
This blog is dedicated to helping you think differently about your money challenges and how to live your best life.
Financial Freedom Countdown discusses many topics related to increasing income, decreasing expenses, traveling, health, life optimization, protection against disaster and anything that tickles their fancies.
7. Fix the Game
On their YouTube channel, Torontonians Steph and Rudy share the tips and tricks that are helping them on their path to financial independence, early retirement (FIRE), and simple living. Steph and Ruby are in their early 30’s working to reach FIRE by the time they’re 40.
The Frugal Gay is new to the personal finance scene, and he has a wealth of information to share. The Frugal Gay is a combo real estate investor and side hustler and takes the “bro” outta both. He owns several rental properties in a few states and does a lot of online retail. He shares his experience and knowledge with both on Twitter and is available for 1:1 coaching.
Gaby Dunn is a TV writer and actress living in Los Angeles. She’s sold shows to MTV, FX, FOX, and YouTube Red and appeared on the second season of Take My Wife, a Starz sitcom – she was kinda the bad guy. Gaby currently writes for Netflix’s Big Mouth.
Gaby has a podcast called Bad with Money, which was named one of the top 10 podcasts of 2016 by the New York Times. The book version of Bad with Money was published by Simon and Schuster in Jan 2019.
Hear Gaby on Queer Money® share why queers are so bad with money:
The Gay Dividend Investor is bringing dividend investing to the queer (and ally) community. Dividend investing is a great way to create an additional income stream whether you want to live off those dividends or reinvest them. Quite timely, they’re also a good hedge against inflation and payments continue even in volatile markets. The Gay Dividend Investor will help you do that on Twitter.
Gay Husbands on FIRE (financial independence/retire early) are firing like right now, and they’re sharing their whole story on Instagram. FIRE is newer to the queer community and we’re rocking it, thanks to leaders like them. You don’t want to miss on Instagram how they negotiated themselves a fatter W2 income to fuel their FIRE even more.
12. I Like to Dabble
Daniella of the I Like to Dabble blog is a serial side hustler, entrepreneur and cat lover and has had up to 12 income streams at one time. With the help of her side hustles, Daniella and her wife paid off $40,000 in debt. Daniella has been sharing her experience and knowledge since 2017 and has since grown a blogging empire. She takes the “hustle bro” approach out of hustling and is helping the LGBTQ community reach financial independence.
Hear Daniella share her story and wisdom on this Queer Money®:
Jen’s a lawyer, blogger and freelance writer. She writes a weekly newsletter called Deliberate Discourse, which focuses on minimalist strategies for life and work.
You can find some of her articles syndicated on The Financial Diet, Thought Catalog, and Medium. Over the past year and a half, her writing has amassed over 1.7+ million views.
14. LGBTQ Money
LGBTQ Money is run by Ryne Vickery, a fee-only, fiduciary Certified Financial Planner™ who encourages his clients and followers to “fix yo money”.
LGBTQ Money is currently only on Instagram and posts are composed in a blog-style that’s light and informative. Ryne’s goal is to educate the LGBTQ community (and allies!) in a fun, easy way that makes financial planning simple and enjoyable. He’s here to help you live your best life and fix your money.
Ryne’s firm is Buckingham Strategic Wealth, a nationwide RIA, based in St. Louis MO.
Living on the Cheap is a site, along with multiple city-focused sites co-owned and operated by Teresa Mears.
According to Teresa, Living on the Cheap provides information on how to save money on everything from groceries to restaurant meals to technology to your next home.
Hear Teresa on Queer Money® talk about late-stage retirement planning:
16. Modern Fimily
Court, Nic and Finn are a financially independent lesbian family enjoying the freedom to live life on their terms.
As a family, they’ve regained their possession of time and prioritize their family values to lead the happiest version of their lives as possible. For Court, Nic and Finn, that’s achieving financial independence, living life with intention and choosing where and when they work. They strive towards spending their time doing all the things they enjoy and spend less time doing things they don’t.
Court, Nic and Finn find fulfillment through traveling, being outside enjoying nature, having in-depth discussions about personal finance and finding creative ways to spend time as a family making memories without spending boatloads of cash.
They hope to educate and inspire you to reach your own financial and lifestyle goals by sharing some of our experiences.
Hear Court impart massive wisdom on this Queer Money®:
17. Oh My Dollar
Lillian Karabaic is passionate about helping people achieve financial well-being regardless of income.
She says, “It’s not about how much you make, but about your relationship to money. For every broke person making six figures (and there’s a lot of them!), there’s a person who earns a modest salary and is making the right money choices.”
Even though it meant working five jobs at times after she graduated college, Lillian’s saved nearly half of her income, stayed debt free, donated 5% of her spending and has traveled to 25+ countries on her modest, non-profit income.
Lillian wants to help you feel confident about your financial future, so you can do what matters to you –and she’ll do whatever it takes – literally whatever it takes – to teach you what you need to know about money without jargon or product sales.
Get a ton of entertainment and a dose of money advice from Lillian on Queer Money®:
Otterwize’s co-founders have more than 25 years of combined experience in private equity, hedge funds, capital markets, financial technology, law and data. They recently worked together for a New York City-based fintech startup developing data and analytics for the alternative finance ecosystem and, at separate times, the same Big 4 accounting firm.
With co-founders from two different generations (a millennial and a baby boomer), Otterwize draws upon different experiences and presents issues and insight from two vantage points.
Stephanie and Gillian are a lesbian couple who saved and invested their way to financial independence and retired early from their corporate careers. On their YouTube channel, they share their secrets for achieving financial freedom and a life of slow travel – their specialty.
Stephanie and Gillian cover it all: how to retire early (in your 40s and even earlier!); how to budget for long-term travel; and what the slow travel lifestyle in Europe is like. They even share how to slow travel with a dog, as their two pups are also along for the ride.
20. Out and Out
Out and Out is part travel blog part personal finance blog from Harlan Vaughn. Although much of Harlan’s focus is on credit cards, both travel rewards and balance transfers, he shares tips about travel and enjoying life while working toward financial independence.
Queerency is a digital media company that shares the best in queer businesses. It promotes and celebrates LGBTQ entrepreneurs, creators, workers, leaders, and the queer economy, including sex workers to queer business leaders.
22. Rental Secrets
Rental Secrets is a book by Justin Pogue that provides average people with strategies they can use to reduce their rent and get more value for what they pay. Landlords have problems and by learning how to solve these problems, you can save hundreds of dollars when you sign your next lease.
Ride Free Fearless Money is an iconoclastic blog and financial literacy platform founded in 2015 by queer, femme, artist and writer Hadassah Damien.
Hadassah’s mission is to build resilience in progressive communities by empowering folks’ relationship with their money. She shares research and tips that help people hack capitalism, create positive social impact and live their values through money — and she talks about how to survive and thrive in this wildly weird and often unjust economic era.
Hadassah offers workshops, coaching and online courses for individuals, partners, and small business owners.
24. Sense with Cents
Sense with Cents is a personal finance blog that documents Alacias Enger’s personal journey toward financial freedom, analyzes the current fiscal theory and develops new theories.
25. Solitary Diner
The Solitary Diner, aka the Frugalish Physician, is a (once again single) bisexual woman who started as a full-time attending physician in August 2015. She lives with her two cats in a lovely apartment somewhere in Canada and writes at SolitaryDiner.com about atheism, being queer, cooking, travel, money, and the (sometimes) amazing world of medicine.
The Transcapitalist helping to get all people, LGBTQ or otherwise, to talk about money and is a strong voice for financial independence for trans and all queer people. As a financial coach at Daylight, they’re also coaching folks one-on-one to help as many people as possible reach financial independence.
ZJ Thorne’s a young lesbian professional living and working in a metropolitan area trying to achieve financial freedom. Her hope to inspire others with her journey. Her unrealistic dream is to be free in five years – 2021.
ZJ’s merely sharing what she’s doing in her life. She started her blog with a $150,000 negative net worth in April 2016.
Gay travel blogs
How does every gay conversation start? “Any travel plans?”
Gays know how to travel. When it comes to gay blogs, gay travel blogs reign supreme. With a plethora of them, we dug deep and found a few of the best known and unknown gay travel blogs.
28. Nomadic Boys
Nomadic Boys are gay couple Stefan and Sebastien who have been traveling the world together for over 10 years. Every week they publish an inspiring gay guide or story experience from each new place they visit. They aim to inspire gay travelers and help them plan their own gaycation. They were also kind enough to include us on their list of best gay bloggers.
Brent and Michael are a longtime gay couple who decided in 2017 to sell their Seattle home and travel the world as “digital nomads.” They’ve lived for months at a time in Miami, Florida; the island country of Malta; Matera, Italy; Bansko, Bulgaria; Koh Lanta, Thailand; Hoi An, Vietnam; the Swiss Alps; Tbilisi, Republic of Georgia; Mexico City, Mexico; and Lisbon, Portugal. Along the way, we’ve made shorter stops in Barcelona, Geneva, Bologna, Rome, Florence, and dozens of other cities.
They’ve liked it so much they created their website as a resource for others interested in following in their footsteps.
Sion and Ben have been together for over 11 years and were married in 2017. They share a passion for travel and save as much as they can to fund their travel addiction.
They caught the travel bug in 2011 with a 9-month trip that took them to Australia, Thailand, Cambodia, Vietnam, Laos, Malaysia and Bali. Since then, Sion and Ben have visited over 25 countries and have a long list of more countries to visit.
They hope to inspire, educate, promote LGBTQ-safety and get more queer people traveling.
31. Out with Ryan
Out with Ryan is a travel blog created by YouTuber Ryan Thomas Woods. Ryan’s basically your new gay BFF who wants to show you how to live a fabulous life and see the world with a new perspective. He’s a 20-something digital nomad based between Canada and Europe (where sis cute gay BF lives) and is currently on a mission to travel the world as a gay man.
Ever since his first trip, Ryan has wanted to create a safe space to talk about his travels as a gay man, while sharing other peoples’ stories (travel stories from women, minorities and the LGBTQ community).
Out with Ryan’s a website focuses on travel advice, tips and inspiration that’s inclusive of minorities; especially the LGBTQ+ community that Ryan belongs too.
From hiding his sexuality in North Africa to wearing nothing but a Rainbow flag in Los Angeles, Ryan wants to spotlight the fabulous things in life and travel with positivity and open-mindedness.
Gay relationship blogs
If you’re on Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr or even Pinterest, you’ll know that much of the gay community thirsts for that perfect relationship. Here are a few gay blogs to make your relationship goals a reality.
32. Equally Wed
Equally Wed is the world’s leading wedding and honeymoon magazine and digital resource for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer and allied couples, as well as a published book, Equally Wed: The Ultimate Guide to Planning Your LGBTQ+ Wedding. Within their inspirational content, they focus on wedding planning, real weddings and engagements, marriage equality news and spotlights gay-friendly LGBTQ+ inclusive wedding vendors.
Paul’s spent over 9,000 hours coaching gay professionals. With over 600 videos on YouTube and social media, Paul’s the world’s leader in educating gay men on gay relationships and sexuality.
After many years of coaching, Paul put created courses that help gay men create patterns of behavior that lead to successful relationships. These courses cover gay compatibility, sexuality and bonding.
Paul’s, also, the founder of the Big Gay Family, which connects gay men in an authentic way in a private community without all the rejection, judgment and negativity.
Gay parenting blogs
Daddy, daddy, oh daddy! Gay men with kids are kinda hot, but that’s no reason to jump blindly into the parenting game, as many of these parenting focused gay blogs share. If you’re a gay parent wannabe or you’re on your path to daddyhood, these blogs have plenty-o-info to help.
34. Gays with Kids
Gays with Kids is one of the largest online communities for LGBTQ parents and parents-to-be. They share stores of families on their journey and resources for those who want to become parents and need advice, tips or tools to make the most of their parenting journey.
35. 1 Dad, 1 Kid
Talon Windwalker’s a single parent, author, writer, former hospice chaplain, Zen monk, ultra-runner, snowshoer, endurance cyclist, certified endurance running coach, scuba instructor, photographer and lover of traveling, languages, and cultures.
He dreamt of raising his children in foreign countries and having them experience this amazing, large world. After years of working in intensive care, trauma and with the dying, his family and life motto became “vivez sans regrets” (live without regrets). In that tradition, he made his dream a reality.
Talon left his traditional life and embarked on one as a full-time nomad, traveling around the world slowly with his daughter, whom he calls Tigger. Talon “world schools” Tigger, teaches languages, writes, does photography, teaches scuba and all sorts of other online work along the way.
Gay Parents to Be® is an informational resource and links to gay parenting services. They try to provide the best care for LGBTQ couples and individuals as they navigate all of the options of bringing a child into the world.
To better serve our LGBTQ community, Reproductive Medicine Associates of CT (RMA of CT) launched Gay Parents to Be to more completely address the unique challenges same-sex couples and LGBTQ solo parents face when building their family.
37. The Next Family
The Next Family is a diverse community where modern families meet. It’s the start of an on-going, open-minded and sincere dialogue among urban and adoptive families, in vitro parents, interracial families, same-sex parents, single parents and more. The Next Family is a way to remind people that the next generation of families already exists in larger numbers than the old model of a “family unit”.
38. Proud Parenting
Proud Parenting is a gay parenting blog run by Jeff and Mark. It not only details their story with their daughter Chloe but covers topics on LGBTQ parenting, LGBTQ youth and youth with LGBTQ parents.
39. Daddy and Dad
Jamie and Tom, dads via the adoption of Lyall and Richard, are the founders of Daddy and Dad. They became a family almost six years ago, and their award-winning blog has been gathering a loyal troupe of followers since its launch in 2014.
They’re a proud family of two boys, which means they love hobbies, the outdoors, skyscrapers, rollercoasters, mud, waterparks, sports, pop music, scary movies, pizza, BMXs, trendy clothes and sporty cars.
Gay lifestyle blogs
Oh, the gays! We’d be remiss if our list of gay blogs didn’t include some of the burgeoning mass of blogs that focus on the 3-Ps (penis, pop culture and politics), which dominate the gay blogosphere. We’ve all found ourselves literally sucked down the hole (rabbit or otherwise) of articles or posts about this or that porn star, what the latest diva’s done and the never-ending battle between left and right.
Here are a few new and old to satisfy your hunger for the usual.
The LGBT news, politics, lifestyle, gossip and entertainment site. Its slogan: Free of an agenda. Except for that gay one.
What began as a passion project between The Authentic Gay’s two co-founders has uniquely transformed into a transformative platform on which authors share a diversity of perspectives and opinions on LGBTQ topics. The Authentic Gay was born of a need for free, online self-help resources for the gay community and to spark a much-needed dialogue on important topics such as mental health, physical well-being, community and interpersonal relationships.
The Authentic Gay’s mission is to cultivate an educational and fun space for LGBTQ for higher authentic living.
42. The Modern Gay
The Modern Gay Guide to Life is the world’s first premium gay lifestyle blog. From identity to style, music to current affairs, travel to social, The Modern Gay Guide to Life covers all facets of 21st-century gay life with an intelligent and satirical twist.
This is not a rulebook but rather a guidebook – a guidebook that uses personal experiences and insights as signposts along the great journey that is life.
43. Towle Road
Towleroad launched in 2003 and is now a leading online news source offering a broad range of information on politics, pop culture, gay culture, media, entertainment, photography, fashion, technology, men, music, and travel.
Founder, William Smith, felt that there was a great void on social media. Focusing on youth is great, but William wants to open people’s eyes to the entire LGBTQ lifespan. Midlife transitions can mark a period of tremendous growth. It’s a normal developmental life stage. What you do with these valuable years is up to you.
William found that learning to accept all the physical and emotional changes that come with getting older is key. Every age and stage in one’s life has its beauty. Gay Life After 40 is an opportunity to explore new concepts and trends and engage that beauty.
Profiles in Pride is a blog created and written by queer journalist Emily Starbuck Gerson. Nearly weekly, she posts a new Q&A-style interview with a different person in the LGBTQIA community. Her goal is to use storytelling to empower, inspire and educate those both inside and outside the community.
Gay video blogs / gay vlogs
Get this! There are actually gay videos that aren’t porn. Yes, it’s true, and below is a list of some of the best video blogs and gay vlogs you’ll find. In their own way, they serve and entertain people just like us.
Be educated. Be entertained. Enjoy!
46. Jacob Michael
Jacob Michael asks the tough questions, like “Do gay men have straight sexual preferences,” “Is Davey Wavey a bad influence” (oops!) and “Are you envious or in love?” What out Oprah (and call us). Visit Michael regularly.
47. Calum McSwiggan
Calum McSwiggan’s a London-based LGBT+ lifestyle YouTuber who makes content about queer culture, issues that affect the LGBTQ+ community, mental health and sex & relationships.
48. Davey Wavey
Davey Wavey’s a YouTube personality with nearly 300 million video views in more than 160 countries around the world. He uses his platform to spread a message of love, acceptance and the occasional penis joke. Davey’s become one of the leading online voices for the gay and lesbian community.
49. Kenneth Senegal
Sometime-lifestyle and mostly beauty vlogger, Kenneth Senegal, shares all their makeup tips and tricks. Kenneth will entertain you, learn you and inspire you.
50. Kevin Rupard
Beauty – mostly hair – vlogger Kevin Rupard makes all kinds of videos to add value to your life. Kevin wants to build a community where we can support each other and build a strong bond.
The Queer Network explores Queer in the 21st century. Through its original series, Queer from the Couch, the Queer Networks shares interviews and stories about queer people and businesses that are shaping our global queer community. It also produces a weekly show called Queer Network News, sharing queer news and entertainment tidbits from around the world.
Austin and Aaron Rhodes are the fraternal twin brothers who became YouTube personalities after a video of them both coming out to their father went viral on the webs. They record gay videos on gay life, dating, personal hygiene and travel. Austin recently moved to Nashville, so Arron’s currently flying solo. Austin does, though, make an occasional cameo.
53. Travis Bryant
Travis is a former fashion model turned writer and Youtuber. This channel is dedicated to his dating-related storytime videos, men’s lifestyle, grooming, & beauty tips, his personal life and everything in-between.
Gay photo blogs
Shirtless men. Shirtless men with babies. Shirtless men with puppies. Damn!
With the popularity of Instagram, there’s a lot of great gay photo blogs. Some of the photos are even educational, such as Homobilia‘s historical pictoral of gay life in America.
Gayletter is the product of Tom and Abi, who share photos and other content that they’d otherwise share in a letter to you. Now with its own magazine, you can make this eclectic mix of art your own.
Homobilia is a fun and quint history of the LGBTQ community in vintage photos. From classic photos of drag queens and crossdressers to homoerotic pictures of bodybuilders to gay men simply living their lives, get a taste for the past and be inspired by the future with Homobilia.
Beautiful, blue-eyed Strify refers to himself as a pop culture weirdo. Strify shares an eclectic, amusing and – well – weird mix of artistic and funny photos on his profile.
57. The Travelin Bum
If you like men’s butts, we’ve found the gay photoblog for you. With a lot of bootyliciousness, The Travelin Bum shares pixx of bums of all shapes, sizes and colors. If you’re looking to be uplifted or for an uplift, check this stream out.
And, there you have it a list of some great new and a few good ol’ gay blogs.
We know we’ve left some off. Don’t take it personally. Just drop us a line if you want yours or your favorite gay blog added.
But we’re not done yet.
How to make money as a gay blogger
You have a special skill, talent or perspective that needs to be heard. We need more LGBTQ voices sharing their expertise so that we can continue to strengthen the queer community.
The louder and stronger our unified voice is, the more we can push for true equality all across this country for all queer people.
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