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Confessions of Self-Worth and Spirituality

  May 14, 2019  |    #Live Fabulously

Our new self-worth and spirituality

We came into 2019 prepared for an amazing year. We were in talks with a bank to do a lucrative Queer Money Live tour and had the support of a number of corporate partners leading up to the launch of our Credit Card Pay Off Course. And then it all went south.

Hear our challenges (and successes) with our self-worth and spirituality

Our year of overcoming self-worth and spirituality

Just a few weeks into 2019, the tour fell through and the course, which we had expected to cover our living expenses for the year, didn’t get us through the month of January. The depression that followed made it painfully clear that our self-worth and spiritual health were not as strong as we thought.

Today on Queer Money®, we’re pulling back the curtain on the challenges we’ve faced earlier this year and explain how house sitting in small-town Pennsylvania taught us how much self-development work we have left to do. We discuss what we recognized about our self-worth being attached to external factors and share some of the books that have supported our ongoing spiritual journey.

We offer insight into the new morning routine that has brought us together as a couple and facilitated our personal growth, reflecting on how far we’ve come in the last few months—despite our challenging financial situation. Learn how the voice in your head is not you and learn how to let go of the false belief systems that don’t serve you to be an LGBTQ force for good in the world!

I started to recognize that some of my behaviors were still trying to mask a feeling inside me. - David Auten of the Debt Free GuysClick To Tweet

Topics covered on self-worth and spirituality 

Our confidence going into 2019

  • In talks with bank to do lucrative Queer Money Live tour
  • The anticipated success of course launch (corporate partners)

How expectations differed from reality

  • Expected course to cover 2019 expenses, didn’t even cover a month
  • Tour fell through and self-worth plummeted too
  • House sitting in Columbia, PA (uncomfortable being selves)

What we realized about our situation from reading A New Earth

  • Self-worth attached to other’s actions (i.e.: success of course)
  • Masking unhappiness with alcohol, therapy shopping, etc.
  • Defined by attachments to external things + other’s perceptions

David’s experience practicing the meditation exercises in Dr. Dispenza’s book

  • The feeling of joy, abundance + love like never before
  • No longer feel need to mask lack of self-worth

The new morning routine that has brought us together as a couple

  • Start the day with 20 minutes reading together
  • Follow-up with journal practice for introspection

The idea that the voice in your head is NOT you

  • Trained by others (parents, peers, church, etc.)
  • Use meditation to quiet voice and learn to feel

Where we are now financially and spiritually

  • Financial situation has not improved
  • Much better space mentally

The value in breaking down false belief systems that don’t serve us

  • Key to changing our financial situation, relationships
  • Affect positive change as LGBTQ community

Resources for improving self-worth and spirituality

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What is it like for a gay couple living in a small town? What about a gay couple who have high hopes and dreams based on a previous life in a big city? Listen to our story to find out our confessions of a rough start to 2019. #GayCouple #GayMen #LGBTQIssues #FabulousGayLife #LGBTBusiness

3 responses to “Confessions of Self-Worth and Spirituality

  1. Your insights about budgeting and other money concepts are invaluable! Don’t give up! I am not gay, but find much of your advice and ideas are great for everyone,

  2. Good story and I’m glad you didn’t shut it all down!

    By starting the daily meditations and affirmations you guys suggested months ago, I personally have really been digging into many of those spiritual areas and feel so much more at peace (most of the time) with my life, relationship, job, etc.

    It seems the more I learn about and incorporate into my days, the better life gets. Really enjoying the journey.

    Also, I am a realtor and have quite a roller coaster of emotions depending on what business is or isn’t coming in. I find that even after 30 years of sales jobs, I still find myself going negative and questioning my self worth when the slower times happen. Still trying to build up enough confidence in the universe and myself to keep from letting the negative voice take over at those times so I am not sabotaging myself.

    1. Thank you! We appreciate it. We’re glad we didn’t shut things down, too. Gotta keep moving.

      We’re so happy to hear that daily meditations and affirmations are helping you. It’s only because we doubled-down on those kinds of practices that we didn’t shut things down.

      One of my closest friends is a realtor, and she just shared her stress about downward market pressure she’s been feeling. It’s a tough industry. I’m sure it can be emotionally and spiritually tough, too. Keep up the great work! No doubt all your practices will give you all the self-confidence and perseverance you need.

      Thanks for reading and commenting!

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