On this episode of Queer Money™, we talk with Adrian from Tel Aviv, Israel. Adrian shares with us his experience navigating the international waters of queer family planning. With same-sex marriage still new in the U.S., the queer community is considering family planning at record levels. This Queer Money™ shares an example of what international surrogacy looks like outside the United States for same-sex couples and six considerations queer couples shouldn’t forget when planning their family.
Adrian and his husband met 17 years ago in London, England and were married in Europe before they moved to Tel Aviv. Because Adrian and his husband were married in a country that recognizes same-sex marriage at the national-level, Israel also recognizes their marriage. Same-sex marriage cannot be performed legally in Israel.
International Queer Family Planning
Adrian and his husband decided they wanted to grow their family in 2006 and Adrian shares their emotional draw towards having children. Adrian shares the queer family planning considerations, which started with adoption and landed on surrogacy five years later. Whereas they originally thought adoption was their easiest option, surrogacy turned out to be the most ideal for them.
Queer Family Planning and Finances
For our Queer Money™ audience, Adrian shares how they analyzed and prepared financially for growing their family. Adrian used a detailed and ever-evolving Excel spreadsheet that compared multiple options to grow their family, considerations and outcomes so he and his husband were prepared financially for whatever route proved possible. They researched all options, including the home country of their surrogate, family support and insurance options.
Don’t go it alone if you’re planning your own family. For family planning support in the U.S., visit Men Having Babies.