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LGBT Assisted Living to Be More Golden Girls Than Grumpy Old Men

  July 12, 2017  |    #Live Fabulously

LGBT Assisted Living in America

Don’t think you need to consider an LGBT assisted living facility? According to a SAGE study, older LGBT people are more likely to be single, live alone and be childless. As Prudential’s 2012 LGBT Financial Experience Survey suggests, the “most pressing concern” and the “bigger financial confidence gap” for LGBT people are outliving their retirement money. What resources do we have?


Alta Prime Assisted Living, an LGBT-Friendly Assisted Living Facility

It’s important to celebrate older generations in the LGBT community for their strength and resilience. Their willingness to stand up and fight got us where we are today and the best way to say thank you is to ensure that our seniors have a place to call their own, where they can receive the care they need, such as adequate LGBT assisted living facilities.

Tony Ramos is the executive director of Alta Prime Assisted Living, a unique senior residential care facility in Aurora, Colorado. Alta Prime is an LGBT-friendly assisted living facility, and its model of converting single-family homes into care facilities for four to five seniors allows for customized one-on-one care for all people, including LGBT seniors.

Tony is a Colorado native with ten-plus years in financial services and a Master’s in business administration. This background coupled with a growing interest in real estate and experience caring for his grandparents led Tony down the path to entrepreneurship in the senior housing industry. Being gay himself made him eager to help LGBT seniors.

Today Tony explains the difference between assisted living facilities and nursing homes, the costs associated with senior residential care, and strategy around preparing for retirement. He also helps us understand the unique needs of the aging LGBT community, the availability of LGBT-friendly senior care facilities, and the discrimination faced by some LGBT seniors in non-LGBT-friendly residential care. Tony is ready to share what sets Alta Prime apart as they ‘spoil the seniors’ so their retirement looks more like The Golden Girls and less like Grumpy Old Men.

Topics Covered

How Tony gained an interest in senior residential care

  • Helping grandmother explore options
  • Heart for ‘taking care of our own’
  • Experience in hotel management

How Alta Prime is different from other facilities

  • Converted single family home
  • More oversight in smaller setting
  • One-on-one care and customization

The cost of senior residential care

  • $80,000/year average for assisted care facility
  • $8-10,000/month for institutional facility ($12-15,000 for specialized care)
  • Traditional health insurance does not help cover cost
  • Long-term care plans offset some expenses

The financial advantage of a smaller residential facility

  • Less expensive than institutional care
  • Shortage of availability of Medicaid homes

How long people stay in assisted living facilities

  • Varies by home, specialization
  • Average stay of two to three years

The difference between assisted living facilities and nursing homes

  • Assisted living provides 24/7 concierge service, may use outside vendors to deliver medical care
  • Nursing homes offer 24/7 medical care

The clients served at Alta Prime

  • 65 and older
  • Ambulatory
  • Need help with bathing, cooking
  • Parkinson’s patients

The standard services available at an Alta Prime facility

  • 24/7 supervision
  • 3 nutritional meals, hydration, and snacks throughout the day
  • Medication administration
  • Housekeeping and laundry
  • Errands
  • Bathing, getting ready
  • Social activities
  • Exercise to minimize dementia risk
  • Excursions (e.g.: Rockies game)
  • ‘Spoil the seniors’
  • Come and go as they please

The availability of LGBT exclusive senior residential facilities in the US

  • Only a handful in the nation
  • Fountain Grove Lodge, Stonewall Gardens, Rainbow Vision, Birds of a Feather, Triangle Square

The unique needs of the older LGBT community

  • Some still dealing with HIV
  • Limiting beliefs
  • Fear of isolation, loneliness

The numbers around the aging LGBT population

  • Three million in LGBT community over 55
  • Will double in next 20 years
  • 51% of older LGBT community concerned about financial future
  • 2/3 of older trans people worry about being denied access to medical treatment
  • 24% of older LGBT people of color have experienced housing discrimination
  • 71% of LGBT population scared won’t have money for happy retirement

The discrimination of LGBT seniors in residential care facilities

  • Testimony of aging seniors regarding discrimination, isolation
  • Verbal abuse from staff, other residents
  • Some cases of physical abuse

Tony’s suggestions around preparing for retirement

  • Planning is crucial
  • Research available services, funding access
  • Consider long-term care insurance
  • Acquire retirement vehicle [i.e.: Roth IRA, 401(k)]
  • Build wealth by investing in home
  • Explore Social Security benefits at
  • Study financial benefits of marriage

Why Tony is passionate about caring for LGBT seniors

  • Celebrate by giving space to share lives, stories
  • Grateful for strength, resilience of older generation

Connect with Tony

Alta Prime Website

Alta Prime on Facebook

(720) 810-4279


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