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5 Gay Fitness Tips for Gay Men in Their 40s

  April 9, 2020  |    #Live Fabulously

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Gay fitness for fabulous gay 40s

The older we get, the harder it is to stay hard . . . our pecs, that is! We’ve mixed up our exercise routine, and it’s working. So, we thought we’d share our 5 gay fitness tips for gay men in their 40s. Wellness is just 1 of 5 building blocks of a happy gay life, get the  5 Building Blocks of a Happy Gay Life here.

Gay fitness for gay men in their 40s

It wasn’t long ago in the club-thumping 2000s when we joined our people in a shirtless display of diva-house abandon. As the decade waned, we got too old for that to be our main merrymaking. Work and life happened and working out six days a week turned into working out six days a year.

We’re now in our 40s and Linda Evans* has been telling us since  puberty that “40 isn’t fatal.”

We argue that most of GenXers have chosen our physical states. With advancements in technology and medicine and our greater understanding of anatomy and physiology, all the sexy excuses we manufacture don’t negate the fact that we have no reason to let ourselves go.

We’re not clinging to the gay fitness of our 20s like an aging pop star. We just want to be in the top 20% of our cohort. That’s why we only buy organic, fair trade and gluten-free food that never touches a peanut – or not.

That’s, also, why we kicked our workout intensity up higher than Sally O’Malley can kick. It hasn’t been easy, but we’ve seen good results.

1. Magnificent manly muscle for fabulous gay fitness

Muscle weighs more than fat and bodies that weigh the same look better when they’re more muscle than fat. So, gain more muscle and don’t worry about having too much. For most men in their 40s, too much isn’t possible when it comes to muscles.

We’re doing high-impact weight training for one hour a day, four days a week. This is helping us gain muscle and muscle strength. We started with low weights and are now using medium to heavyweights.

Because our legs are our biggest muscles, we’re lifting legs two of those four days a week. One day, we do arms and shoulders. The last day, we do lats and traps. We superset each exercise, so we never rest long.

In between each superset, we run as fast as we can on the treadmill for one minute and then walk slowly on the treadmill for another minute. This keeps our resting heart rate up during our one-hour, intense exercise.

High-impact weight training reduces the risk of injury, both exercise-induced and otherwise. It’s, also, making us metabolic. This means our caloric burn is increasing even when we’re in a resting state.

So, lift weights, and do yoga and palates with a room full of hotties and check out the bodies until you’re satisfied.

2. Fit gay men keep going

There was a time in our 20s when we were more twinks than Twinkies and could “snap back into shape” in two weeks. Now that we’re in our 40s and want to resume our fabulous gay fitness bodies, getting back into shape requires more than a two-week attention span.

Consistency is key. We do some form of exercise six days a week, come hell or high heels (some would say that’s six of one, half-dozen of the other).

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3. Double-team your gay fitness

Like sex and life, exercise is better with a partner, though neither of us would advocate for giving up solo satisfaction.

When our alarm goes off at 4:30 am, it’s easier getting up knowing that the other is getting up, too. It’s easier to bundle up to go outside during the winter when the other is getting dressed to go outside and brave the cold, too.

Having a workout buddy keeps us motivated during our 60-minute exercise regime. It makes it easier to work out harder, and harder is always better. Both of us can easily phone in a workout. When we work out together, one picks up the other when the other’s slack.

4. Circumvent the cursed cortisol

Cardio is great, but the older we get, the more we must exercise in moderation. Rarely would we tell another man not to push it hard, but because of our propensity for increased production of Cortisol with increased cardio when we age, it’s important to not push cardio too hard.

That means long bike rides, long runs, long times in a humid, body sweat-infused exercise room with a dozen other fellow gay fitness fanatics should not be overdone. Intense cardio may have worked when we were kids, but during our adult years, these same exercises increase our stress levels more than we need.

Stress increases the production of cortisol in our bodies. Cortisol converts blood sugar into fat and fat is the enemy of gay fitness. Cortisol is a bitch for us, but it helped our cave brothers when they had to run from real bears.

5. Count more sheep

On the flip-side, lack of sleep causes a shortage of serotonin. When we’re stressed or tired, we want comfort. What’s the easiest way to feel comfortable? Comfort food!

The reason we want that breakfast donut, a plate of spaghetti and dessert cake is that high-fat and high-carb foods produce serotonin that makes us tired. This should cause us to sleep more, except that white, processed sweet stuff makes it hard to catch 40 winks and lose 40 pounds.

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40-minute, 40-something intense fitness plan

Repeat 4 times:

  • 5-minutes of intense cardio
    • running around the block, climbing stairs, skipping rope, jumping jacks
  • 25 pushups
  • 25 crunches
  • 25 squats (weighted or not)

3 ways to give your workouts some help

1. Don’t give yourself an excuse to not hit the gym

Hit the gym at home with the Bowflex SelectTech Adjustable Weights. You can put in a full workout at home for those days you don’t want to hop in the car and hit the gym with a room full of people you don’t know. We absolutely love ours. They’re compact and considerably cheaper than buying individual weights that take up too much space in a home anyway.

This is great for strengthening and growing your shoulders, arms and chest, the Bowflex SelectTech Adjustable Weights are a perfect complement to any home gym at $279.

2. Stretch your muscles and your mind with yoga

If you’re lifting heavy and heard, you want to stay limber. A great way to do that is yoga with this amazing Live Infinitely 6-piece set.

You’ll get:

  • a 6’ x 2’ Dual Layered 6mm TPE non-slip yoga mat
  • 2 EVA foam blocks
  • a microfiber yoga towel sized matched to your mat
  • a 6-foot cotton strap
  • a full carrying case
  • a free yoga e-book sent immediately after purchase

Stretch those loins and gain more energy for more hard workouts for only $62.90. Don’t forget to buy two, one for your man, too.

If you need a guide to pack on some muscle and burn some fat while you get flexible and zen, get with the P90X2 Base Kit at $139.80.

3. Eat healthy to get more out of your workouts

If you’re putting in all that time and energy for a good workout, don’t sabotage yourself with a bad diet. Get chef-prepped and healthy gourmet meals by Freshly sent straight to your door. All you need to do is heat and eat. Amazing, at $8.99 per meal.

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Better yet, Freshly uses zero gluten, refined sugar, or artificial ingredients. As if this couldn’t get any better, get $60 off your first four orders ($15 per order) of Freshly with code LAUNCH15.

5 ways to 10X your body beautiful

1. Get a better night sleep on an awesome bed

Getting the right amount of rest each night is key to your body’s repair. It’s time to ditch that old bed you’ve had for the last 12 years and get something you can get some real rest when you want to rest and play when you’re ready for play.

Use this link to get $200 off your bed + a free set of bamboo sheets.

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2. Don’t forget those undergarments we love so much

Reward yourself and surprise your man (or men) with a sexy treat. Get underwear and skincare all in one box from BoxoLoco.


3. Keep that face looking young

If you’re taking care of your body, take care of your skin. We love, love, love Osmotics Blue Copper 5 Anti-Aging Body Lift, and put it on our faces every night.

Osmotics Blue Copper 5 Anti-Aging Body Lift

With the anti-aging magic of it copper peptides, you’ll love it as much as we do. We get the 5 oz/$94 jar, and it lasts three months+ because we use it in small doses.

4. Don’t be afraid to show those guys your eyes

Do more with your skin regimen with Peter Thomas Roth’s Power K Eye Rescue. We use this around our eyes every night.

Peter Thomas Roth Power K Eye Rescue

This is a little pricey, but it’s well, well worth it.

5. Last but not least, love on your beard

If you’re taking care of everything on your face, don’t forget about that beard. For $10/month or $110/year, Birchbox Grooming, you’ll get skincare, makeup, tools and more. It’s a great way to put that finishing touch on your manly face and you manly new bod.

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Snag a free gift or sample with a purchase of $35 or more, so you and he are both winners.

Because you’re doing it for the sex, yes?

To be fair, there’s a good chance you want to improve or maintain your fitness because you want to maintain or improve your sex life. We get it (it’s kinda why we do too!). Here are some ways we like to have even more play fun.

1. Be more playful with your hot bodies

These sex dice are great because they glow in the dark dice . . . because who wants to have sex with all the lights on? You’ll get four dice, two with various sexual positions to try, one with action words, such as “Lick” and “Blow” and one with the names of body parts, such as “Thigh” and “Nipple.”

Gay Date Ideas - Play a sex game

It’ll take time to warm up and not be so literal with what you roll, as some combinations won’t make sense at first. But, when you loosen up and get creative, the fun begins. Of course, you’ll eventually want to get to the deed. So, dice usually facilitate the foreplay, and at $13.98, they’re worth it.

In the 90s, Madonna took Truth or Dare to the next level. Well, it’s the raging 20s and it’s time to one-up the queen with a sex-inspired evening of your own with these Truth or Dare Cards for Couples.

Filled with 50 naughty truths and 50 risqué dares, you and your guy will have a fun and “revealing” evening together. All that fun for $8.95 is perfect for the sexual couple on a budget.

Finally, our NEW favorite sex game is Blocks of Desire. It’s like Jenga, Twister, sex dice and sex combined.

Blocks of Desire









That’s an amazing night for $35.99 available here.

2. Amp up your kinky with these boy toys

There’s nothing wrong with a little accompaniment to enhance bedtime (or where you have sex) fun. That’s why we like this LANYHU nylon and leather toy set.

LANYHU Plush Suit Nylon Leather Binding Set Alternative Props

At just $23.00, you’ll have endless nights of endless fun for less.

These are just a few ways to feel happier, healthier and wealthier as a gay man. Get all 5 Building Blocks of a Happy Gay Life here.

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3 responses to “5 Gay Fitness Tips for Gay Men in Their 40s

  1. Thanks so much for posting this. I often find myself not fitting in to the “conventional” gay blogs or even groups. I don’t support victimhood, nor do I feel we should be coerced into thinking or voting just one way. I find myself to be pretty open minded and free thinking when it comes to politics and am more concerned with self sufficiency and self reliance when it comes to money and life in general. I’ve worked really hard to become and remain debt free. It’s been a way of life for me and one I don’t regret. Keep up the good work!

  2. I have always tried to find a 50+ trainer to guide me through my regiment of fitness. Being a Military Army VET of 26 years, the pounding has taken a toll on my body where the 20-30 year old personal trainer has no clue. I have google and FB to find them and nothing. Any help?

  3. Thanks for the article. I loved it
    I’ve been searching for a home dvd fitness & stretching course. Gay themed of course cuz that’s more fun. Any ideas?

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