10 secrets you don’t know about gay power couples
You thought only Madonna had a secret? Neil & David, Ellen & Portia, George & Brad, we all want to be like them when we grow up, but how did they become the gay power couples they are today? What can we learn from them to become the gay power couples we know ourselves to be?
We’ll uncover the ten secrets that swing gay power couples from the bottom to the top.
1. Gay power couples limit limitations
Most people acquire, at least, a dose of limiting beliefs as they grow up. We queer people do so disproportionately more. However, these queer heroes know that they do themselves a disservice if they act as their own worst enemy.
Consequently, they overcome their limiting beliefs and receive all the success they can imagine. Like Dorothy and her quest to return home, they know they have the power within them all along.
2. They never stop learning
To keep up with other like-mind homo joes, they constantly learn; they read, listen, and watch informational, educational and inspirational books, podcasts, videos, webinars, blogs, etc.
They soak up information like a sponge to change themselves and change the world.
3. They take risks and fail forward
Power people take risks. They aren’t afraid to fail. They don’t like to fail, but they’re not afraid to fail because they know that when they’re not winning, they’re learning. They know that comfort stifles progress; no progress or slow progress means no success.
Many start their own businesses or work to become leaders of industry. They know that the more power they have the more power they give our queer community. They step out of the closet and then step up to become leaders.
4. Gay power couples support each other like a jock strap
Successful people have clear, achievable goals. Successful gay couples support each other’s goals. They may not have the same exact goals, but they support each other’s individual ambitions. They act as each other’s accountability partners, and they’re a mini-mastermind group.
They understand that the other’s success is their success. When one wins, the other wins. Likewise, when one loses, the other loses, and they work together to prevent or mitigate losses.
A way for each of you to be clear on each other’s dreams is for each of you to create vision boards. Collect and post pictures of the lives you want to live, the goals you want to achieve, and the leader you want to be.
5. Power couples spend less money than they make
The successful male duos on our green and blue sphere know where each dollar comes from and where each dollar goes. They never ask, “Where the f*ck did all my money go?” They’re crystal clear on how, when and where they spend their money. They understand that the physics of money says they cannot spend more than they earn.
They have budgets and use tools to stick to their budget like Kerri Strug sticks landings. They understand what Soren Kierkegaard meant when he said, “Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom,” and that a budget is not restrictive but liberating.
6. Gay bosses give back to our gay gaggle
Power couples understand that “to whom much is given much is expected.” They know the causes and initiatives that are important to them, and they donate their time and money accordingly.
Like Oprah said, “And [giving is] not just about writing a check. It’s being able to touch somebody’s life.” The better they do the better they can give back.
7. The power couple is often the hot couple
Whether they’re bears, twinks, otters or jocks, they take care of themselves. They know that they’re their brand. Whether they work for themselves and/or someone else, they know their mugs can help them win or lose. Therefore, they take care of their bodies and their appearances without sacrificing secret number five.
These gay inspirations get their (plump) behinds into to the gym and move their burly booties every day.
They don’t obsess about body image. They don’t manufacture false ideals. They simply know that their health leads to success, and their brand requires a healthy image.
Likewise, they know that clothes that fit them well are better than clothes that cost them much. They don’t need a lot of clothing, but the clothing they have is good and makes them look good. No one tires of looking at a man in a well-fitted suit no matter how often he wears it, whether it’s for the beach or the office.
8. They spend their time with like-minded people
Successful people know as Jim Rohn said, “you’re the average of the five people with whom you spend most of your time.”
They don’t exclude themselves from everyone else. Like Bob Proctor says, they spend time with their other friends, just not as long and not as frequently. Rather, they seek out people who push them to be better. They find their people, others who think bigger, want to grow more, and give back plentifully.
9. Play is work and work is play
They know that time is money and money is time. Like all of us, they like their gaycations and blend play time and work time. Whether it’s dinner or travel or adventuring, they connect with their network and their network’s network to build business relationships and friendships.
They understand that they can have their cake and eat it, too, with synergies, mutually beneficial relationships and A Whole New Mind level of thinking.
10. They recharge right
These Not-Too-Ambiguously-Gay-Duos aren’t superhuman, though they’re super successful. They know when and how to recharge without wrecking secret number five. They know maximizing secret number ten doesn’t mean sacrificing secret number seven.
Taking a break doesn’t mean breaking the bank. Unwinding physically and mentally doesn’t mean overdoing it with sex, drugs and alcohol. They know that overdoing these vices could mean undoing their goals and objectives. They, also, know there’s a healthy balance and don’t deny themselves occasional desires.
Stop hoping and start acting! Figure out your goals and the objectives needed to achieve them. Then, use these ten secrets for launching yourself and your husband into the gay-power-couple-stratosphere.
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